another update on the great monkey invasion...

sorry I've been so absent... this kid doesn't let me do anything that doesn't serve her in some way hehehe

we've gotten into a groove and things have gotten much easier... on me at least
we play, do crafts, watch movies - run around outside as much as possible - Sam and I have both had Lyme Disease once each already this summer and I've pulled two ticks off of her since she got here so I'm a little afraid to let her play in our yard much which kinda sucks

we had gotten one of those inflatable pools to play in BUT of course since my mother hasn't gotten the water situation fixed yet we only got about 5 inches of water in it before we started having issues and had to stop filling it in favor of bathing and flushing the toilet

the pee pee issue has ceased... I think she was just adjusting to being away from home and parents for the first time - for the daytime accidents we told her if she didn't stop we'd get her diapers... after a few 'warnings' she decided she isn't a baby and didn't want to wear diapers like one!!
as for the bed wetting... it turned out she was too scared to go by herself - once I told her she can come wake up one of us to take her, that is what she does... so no more problems there - YAY!!

althoughhhhhhhhh there have been incidents where I was asleep and Sam was wide awake sitting on the couch and she wakes me instead of asking him ~sigh... whatever - at least she's not peeing in her pants

out of everyone involved I think Sam is having the hardest time adjusting - he doesn't deal well with stress to begin with... not being able to relax and get some peace & quiet when he gets home at the end of the day is REALLY wearing on him... which is in turn wearing on me

if there was any doubt before it is gone now... no kids for us!!
I can really understand now why so many people with children wind up divorced... it's hard enough to maintain a healthy marriage WITHOUT the constant distractions and interruptions - I don't think Sam and I have had one decent conversation since she got here

I don't even think to ask him how his day was anymore - either because my brain is total mush by then or there is a monkey jumping around distracting one or both of us

I also don't appreciate feeling like we have to have sex just because someone has generously given us a little time to ourselves - maybe I would like that time to enjoy the fact that I'm finally NOT being clung to

but Sam is putting up with enough already... I can't exactly deny him THAT too haaa

I don't know if I mentioned this but what happened was my sister called here FREAKING out saying she needed a break (she does this all alone 24/7/365) and asked if we could take her for a couple weeks

I said I'd check with Sam... he was cool with it so I said yes
the next thing I know she's talking about a month - so Sam and I agreed to 2-4 weeks

my mother was paying for the plane tickets... since my sister was having such a meltdown my mother (without consulting me) told her to get a one way ticket and we'll play it by ear!!

uh hello... not YOUR home that is being invaded... not YOUR life that is being flipped upside down - so who are YOU to just leave it open like that???

but it was too late... the ticket was bought before I had any chance to say anything

so anyway... the kid shows up here expecting to spend the summer - today is the one month mark and I've just started to be DONE - the last few days have been the nail in the coffin... I mean I LOVE her to bits and enjoy having her around - but it's enough already

Sam told me a week ago to tell whoever is arranging her return to get on it - he wants her on a plane back to AZ by the end of the month (that will be a 6 weeks visit by then) which I think anyone would agree is MORE than enough!!!

part of the problem is that I was under the impression that since her father is in NY she'd be spending at least one day a week with him... but my sister keeps cutting off his visits or waiting till the last possible moment to let us know if he'll be allowed to see her (she doesn't think he deserves to see her if he doesn't pay his child support) whatever - I mean I understand that is all she has to try to make him pay... but the kid is a human being not a bargaining chip

so we can't plan our lives if we never know what the weekend will hold

long story short-ish - they've all been told they need to arrange a departure date that starts with the number 7 or Sam says the rules will be HIS!! - we'll see what happens there haaaa

of course I feel bad because the kid thinks she's spending the summer and I don't wanther to think she's going home 'early' because of anything SHE did... it's just time, ya know?

I spoke to my sister and told her that we'd be glad to take her again... for no more than 2-4 weeks and with MUCH better planning before hand - so we'll see