calgon take me away....
Natalie still had a bunch more stuff to get rid of, so rather than sit around the house all weekend picking her nose I suggested she come over and use my mother’s front yard to try to get rid of some more stuff… a change of venue might mean making some more money (which she needs to help defray her moving costs) for unloading her crap, rather than taking half of it to the dump – we get a lot more drive-by traffic here – whereas the only people who really drive by her house are the ones who live on her road
it was a little selfish on my part as well… I really needed the distraction… and I really wanted to spend some more time with her before she leaves (she IS moving over 600 miles away in about a week) =(
the only problem with this plan was that she’d have to bring the kids, at least on Friday, her mother is supposed to watch them today – of course it’s supposed to rain all day haaaa but that won’t stop us!! the kids aren't really a PROBLEM - it's just a lot easier if someone else watches them
anyway… she has a 2½ year old (Squirt) and a 6 year old (Spaz) and the two of them are enough to make anyone nutty!! don’t get me wrong – I love these kids!! Spaz was the first baby to be born into our little circle of friends and I spent almost every day of the first year of his life watching him while Natalie went to school, he calls me ‘aunt’ – he tells everyone that I’m his mother’s sister haaaa – but he has some behavioral issues
Squirt is just a normal 2 year old… the biggest issue with him is keeping him safe and out of the road – but Spaz…. he doesn’t do a damn thing he is told – EVER!! I don’t know if he has ADHD (if he does I suspect it’s more about his diet than anything else) but I suspect that of all the kids labeled 'ADHD' - but that's a whole other post...
last weekend when we did this yard sale thing at her house I was absolutely exhausted after the first day because of the way her kids were acting – Spaz does whatever the hell he wants… which encourages Squirt to do the same – in Spaz’s defense it’s NOT his responsibility to keep his little brother entertained and out of our hair for an entire day, but that was his job (for which he was being paid) really all he had to do was try to keep him in the living room, we were two rooms away, not outside or anything) but that’s not the point
the point is this kid didn’t obey a single order, didn’t accept a single thing he was told – apparently NO is not something he’s used to accepting – if he was told not to come into the garage he said ‘but I just wanna…’ and in he was
if she went outside and left me in charge he wouldn’t listen to me either… and I’m MUCH more stern sounding then his mother!! and it’s certainly not like he’s unfamiliar with me…
by the end of the day he had gone against what each of us told him to do or not do EVERY SINGLE TIME he was told something – and that was A LOT!! like dozens of times – and not just once but several times each!! I wish I could have caught the whole thing on film – it was really quite a spectacle… Nanny 911 would be horrified!!
at one point when I was left in charge and after Spaz disobeyed me for the 7th time in 10 minutes (literally!!) I told him he was the worst behaved child I’ve ever seen in my life – I said ‘you’re a big boy now, you’re fully capable of listening and doing as you’re told, so what is the problem?!’
he said ‘I listen’
I said ‘you may HEAR us but you certainly don’t do as you’re told!’
his response ‘what if I told YOU I don’t want you here anymore’
I said ‘that’s fine, but it’s too bad because you don’t make those decisions’
I started to feel bad…. I wondered if I had been too hard on him… after all it’s not his fault he’s a disrespectful, disobedient little brat – his parents are the ones who allow him to get away with this crap!!
but I was at my wits end trying to keep him out of where he wasn’t supposed to be – trying to get him to pay attention to my words and do as he was told
I tried getting down on his level and talking calmly and trying to let him know I understood (he’s upset because he’s moving away and a lot of their stuff is being sold) I understand this is all traumatic to him and I get that – and if this was NEW behavior for him I’d accept that as an excuse but he’s been this way his entire life!!
I told Natalie what I said to him – I figured she’d be pissed, she just kinda shrugged – but she’s exhausted… I don’t know what I expected from her but I expected more than a shrug… she knows to expect nothing but the brutal truth from me whether she likes it or not, we’ve been friends since kindergarten, she knows me well!! but when it comes to this kid I’m probably a little too forthcoming with my feelings about his behavior!!
at the end of the day we were sitting down taking a deep breath and she said to me ‘well… the kids were pretty well behaved today… considering’
considering what?!?! I thought
my eyebrows must have shot right off the top of my head like a cartoon hehehe
I just looked at her and calmly said ‘you spend way too much time with those kids if you think they were ANYTHING close to well behaved!! they were the exact opposite of well behaved!!’ I said ‘Squirt was just being 2 but Spaz? his behavior is completely, ridiculously unacceptable!!’ and I told her what I told him… ‘he’s a big boy, 6 years old is plenty old enough for him to listen and understand and do what he’s told!!’
I mean I would expect and can accept a certain amount of rowdy behavior, there was a lot of commotion and he’s VERY social, he always wants to be involved in everything – but that doesn’t mean he can be or should be… does it?!!!
anyway…. she just looked at me and didn’t really say anything – I mean I wasn’t expecting his behavior to change or anything - I guess I just needed to throw in my two cents
this kid has his parents (and anyone else involved) so exhausted that he calls all the shots!! he even manages to negotiate his punishments!! if he’s told to stand in the corner he’ll spend 10 minutes negotiating a better location!! like… if I’m going to be punished it’s at least going to be on MY terms!! and it works!!!
of course being childless I have no idea what it’s like… I’m completely incapable of having useful input on the situation
but when I told my mother and sister (who have had kids) what I said to Natalie – they said ‘GOOD!! maybe she’ll open her eyes’
so it’s not just me who thinks this child’s behavior is out of control
of course her eyes didn’t open…. she was here with the kids for most of the day yesterday – and Spaz was told by my mother to please not go into her house (her very nervous cat had been through something traumatic and she didn’t want her being scared to death by screaming running, spastic children) he didn’t listen – he opened her door and was running in and out of her house like a lunatic all morning long
at the end of the day I asked Natalie if there is ever a time where he does what he’s told on the first or second try, or does it always take a dozen attempts (and then you give up)?
she laughed and said occasionally… VERY occasionally he does what he’s told on the first try (I thought to myself… when is that? when you tell him to sit down and eat his ice cream? noooo because even then he’d be up stomping his foot whining about why there aren’t M&M’s on top!!)
I said ‘well that may be fine for you guys since you’re used to it, but other people aren’t and he really needs to learn to do as he’s told!! especially when he’s at someone else’s house!!
again she said nothing…. I’m wasting my breath – but I love them and I’m worried about the repercussions of this behavior as he gets older and the toll it’s going to take on Natalie’s sanity – she’s totally exhausted as it is
anyway…. there was a brief moment where I got Spaz to stand still and draw me a picture and I wanted to share it with you guys… when he was done I was supposed to guess what it was of – I was given a couple hints which I’ll pass on to you
1. it’s not a dinosaur
2. it’s not something with 4 legs
so can you guess what this is a picture of?
the first person to guess correctly gets to... I dunno... ummm - the first person to guess correctly gets their choice of prizes
choice #1 - to ask me 5 questions I have to answer honestly
choice #2 - pick a topic for me to post about
what's that you say? those are crappy prizes? sorry but gmail is old news and all I have in my pockets is a box of comfits and a thimble...





















